The Ultimate Guide to Sex After Fifty:
How to Maintain – or Regain – a Spicy, Satisfying Sex Life
Written by: Joan Price
Published by: Cleis Press (2014)
No matter what age you are, this book has something to teach you! Are you a senior? Then, in my opinion, you absolutely must read it. The Ultimate Guide to Sex after Fifty dispels all myths that sex has to fade away with age.
Joan Price writes in a style that is warm, clear, and informative. I love that the definition of sex is broadened to include all the things you might not consider. By doing this, those who are not able to have what they might consider ‘real’ sex anymore – penetrative intercourse – are encouraged to still embrace their sexual selves and passions.
Well written and easy to read, the print is large enough to be gentle on aging eyes. It contains eighteen chapters that can be easily referenced. Topics include busting myths about sex and aging, body changes, sex with yourself, toys, stretching boundaries, communication with your partner and your doctor, when sex is painful, dating, safer sex, cancer, sex without erections, and so much more. Communication is discussed at length and suggestions are made of ways to communicate your desires and fears to your lover. Health and mobility concerns are presented in gentle ways.
I recommend this book to everyone – whether you are coupled, single, young, old, healthy, or sick. It is truly a must have.
Excerpt from The Ultimate Guide to Sex after Fifty by Joan Price:
I’ve been on a safer sex soapbox for years, and now that I’m dating again, I’m even more adamant about using barrier protection. I don’t find that it lessens the erotic quality of a sexual interaction at all. In fact, I find the sound of the condom packet ripping open to be as erotic as a kiss. It means that sex will happen—not just in my fantasies, but here and now in this bed, with this partner.
I can’t get pregnant, and I choose my partners carefully, so there’s no need for protection.
When I hear a statement like the above—which is often—I sometimes ask how she chooses partners “carefully.” Too often, I hear something like, “He says he’s safe,” or “I can just tell.”
Right, how could someone who looks like a kindly grandparent possibly have a STD? Thanks to the misconception that safer sex is unnecessary if we’re no longer fertile and someone looks safe and says he or she has no STDs, sexually transmitted diseases are soaring among our age group.
Hearing “I got tested and I’m STD-free” is useless information if he or she is having unprotected sex with other people! If you and your partner are not sexually exclusive, test results from last month or even this morning won’t give you any valuable information.
Being willing to go to bed with you without protection indicates that this new partner did that with other partners, and they did it with their other partners, and so on. Do you really want to have sex with all the people this person has had sex with? Imagine them all in bed with you, and just say no to unsafe sex and yes to barrier protection. It’s the smart, safe, and sane thing to do.
Let’s make this easy:
Use barrier protection every time unless and until you’re in an ongoing, sexually exclusive relationship, and you were both tested for STDs, and retested three to six months* after your last unprotected sex with anyone else.
*Some sexually transmitted diseases are detectable much sooner, but HIV is not conclusive until after three months for most, and in rare cases, up to six months, using the common tests available, according to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention.
I think that eroticizing safer sex is an important step toward using it regularly. Buy a selection of condoms, gloves, dental dams—whatever you might need—and display them with the lubricants in a basket. Now the choice is not whether or not to use them—it’s which one(s) to use.
About the Author:
Joan Price calls herself an “advocate for ageless sexuality.” She has been writing, speaking, and blogging about senior sex since 2005 and is now known by many as the senior sexpert. Joan lives in Sebastopol, California, where she also teaches contemporary line dancing.
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